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Welcome
to September
2010 'News of
Hope'
Welcome
back to the
school routine!
We hope to help
everyone''s
adjustment to
the schedules,
the peer
influences, the
academic
pressures and
more with
on-going
articles to keep
parents,
teachers,
counselors and
teens informed
about making
healthy choices!
As we roll into
the new school
year, we will
continue to keep
you informed of
critical social
and emotional
teen concerns
and prevention
issues for your
youth and
families.
Contents for
September, 2010
• Survey
Reveals 5
Million Youth
Attend Drug
Infected Public
Schools
• Sextortion:
Blackmail among
teens via
Sexting and Cell
Phones
• Launch
National Drug
Facts Week in
your School
District with LEGACY
OF HOPE®
• Parent -
Teen Cell Phone
Use Contract
Pictured Above:
Barbara and Ray
Alpert Long
Beach Jewish
Community Center
where the free
public LEGACY
program was
presented in
August,
sponsored by
WomenShelter.
Susie is
pictured with
Sandie Diamond,
WomenShelter
coordinator of
the event. Many
thanks to all
who attended
with special
acknowledgement
of the Clare
Foundation which
brought a number
of girls in
recovery to view
the program and
stimulate
discussion.
Index
to past Legacy
Newsletters by
topic.
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| Survey
Reveals 5
Million Youth
Attend Drug
Infected Public
Schools
From
CADCA -
Community
Anti-Drug
Coalitions of
America
Columbia
University''s
National Center
on Addiction and
Substance Abuse
last week
announced the
results of its
newest report
National Survey
of American
Attitudes on
Substance Abuse
XV: Teens and
Parents.
CASA''s
back-to-school
survey exposes
an alarming jump
in gang violence
and drug use in
public middle
and high schools
in America.
Based on
CASA’s survey
results, 27
percent of
public schools
are infiltrated
with gangs and
drugs, which
equates to 5.7
million of 12 to
17 year olds who
go to school
every day where
drugs and gangs
are present.
According to the
study, schools
where gangs are
present are
twice as likely
to experience
issues with
illegal drug
use.
The study also
found that
compared to
students at
drug-free
schools,
students from
gang- and
drug-infected
schools are:
• three times
more likely to
drink alcohol,
Aug 26, 2010
• five times
more likely to
use marijuana,
• five times
more likely to
have a friend
who uses illicit
drugs—including
acid, cocaine,
ecstasy, heroin,
or
methamphetamine
• 12 times
more likely to
smoke cigarettes
CADCA
Article here
View
the entire study
from Columbia
University
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| Sextortion:
Blackmail among
teens via
Sexting and Cell
Phones
According
to Sue Scheff of
the Broward
County Parenting
Teens Examiner
in Florida, “Teens
turn to
sextortion -
Blackmailing as
a form or e-venge”
– or just
being mean.”
“As schools
are opening and
teachers,
parents and
administrators
get ready for
another school
year,” says
Scheff, “there
is another form
of bullying/cyberbullying
developing.
Sextortion.
Teens
blackmailing
other teens for
what they do
online with less
than flattering
photos.”
Start the
year off right
by talking to
your kids about
the dangers of
passing photos
of any kind
virtually.
Digital pics
from a phone can
be manipulated
and cropped into
some very
unflattering
pictures. Help
your teens
understand the
possible
consequences.
No doubt, as
Scheff says,
"Communication
is key to
prevention."
Connect
Safely.org
recommends the
following
Tips to prevent
sexting that can
lead to
sextortion:
Don''t take
or send nude or
sexually
suggestive
photos of
yourself or
anyone else.
If you do, even
if they''re of
you or you pass
along someone
else's - you
could be charged
with producing
or distributing
child
pornography. If
you keep them on
your phone or
computer you
could be charged
with possession.
If they go to
someone in
another state
(and that
happens really
easily via cell
phones and
email), it''s a
federal felony.
Then there''s
the emotional
(and reputation)
damage that can
come from having
intimate photos
of yourself go
to a friend who
can become an
ex-friend and
send it to
everyone you
know. Not only
can they be sent
around; they can
be distributed
and archived
online for
people to search
pretty much
forever, affecting
getting in to
college and
future jobs.
Sexting can
be done on any
media-sharing
device or
technology -
including email
and the Web. Teens
have been
convicted for
child porn
distribution for
emailing
sexually
explicit photos
to each other.
Many causes.
In some cases,
kids are
responding to
peer pressure in
a form of
cyberbullying or
pressure from a
boyfriend or
girlfriend (they
break up, and
sometimes those
photos get sent
around out of
revenge).
Sometimes it''s
impulsive
behavior,
flirting, or
even blackmail.
We at Legacy
remind parents
that the
prefrontal
cortex
responsible for
impulse control
is not fully
developed in
young people
until 24 to 27
years old.
Parents, impress
upon your teens
to stop, think
and talk to YOU
before ever
sending a
picture out of
anger, jealousy,
rage, or
revenge.
The feelings
may say DO IT,
but you can help
them calm down
and see the
dangerous
consequences of
acting upon
those emotions.
As ConnectSafely
says, “It''s
always a bad
idea” to send
sexually
explicit or nude
photos.
ConnectSafely
encourages
parents to talk
with your kids
about sexting in
a relaxed
setting.
Ask them what
they know about
it (they may not
have heard the
term, so
"naked
photo-sharing"
works too).
Express how you
feel in a
conversational,
non-confrontational
way. A two-way
dialog can go a
long way toward
helping your
kids understand
how to minimize
legal, social
and reputation
risks.
The bottom
line: Stay alert
when using
digital media.
People aren''t
always who they
seem to be, even
in real life,
and sometimes
they change and
do mean things.
Critical
thinking about
what we upload
as well as
download is the
best protection.
Check
out
ConnectSafely.org
for more info.
As Sue Scheff
says,
“Be an
educated parent,
you will have
safer teens.”
Let
LEGACY OF HOPE
Assemblies
awaken kids to
How their brain
works and
healthy
emotional coping
skills
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| Launch
National Drug Facts Week
in your School District
with LEGACY OF HOPE®
August
27, 2010
Announcement from Join
Together:
From the National
Institute on Drug Abuse
(NIDA) - a component of
the National Institutes
of Health in the U.S.
Department of Health and
Human Services
Expanding on the success
of its online Drug Facts
Chat Day, the National
Institute on Drug Abuse
(NIDA) announced it is
launching National
Drug Facts Week, a new
national awareness week
designed to bring
together teens and
scientific experts to
discuss the facts about
drug abuse.
"What we learned
through our annual Web
chat is that teens have
many questions about
drug use and are eager
for objective, factual
answers," said
NIDA Director Dr. Nora
Volkow. "So we
wanted to build a series
of events where teens
could ask scientists
their questions
directly."
The week starts on
Monday, November 8
and encourages
community-based question
and answer events
between teens and
scientists. Events can
be sponsored by a
variety of
organizations, including
schools, community
groups, sports clubs,
book clubs, and local
hospitals.
Include a LEGACY OF
HOPE presentation to
emotionally captivate
and motivate the
attention of both youth
and adults, then deliver
the scientific data to
convince them
intellectually. A
powerful combination for
making a lasting impact.
NIDA provides an online
toolkit that advises
teens and their
sponsoring organizations
on to how create an
event, how to publicize
it, how to find a
scientific expert, and
where to find scientific
information on drugs.
National Drug Facts Week
is being supported by
multiple federal
agencies that share an
interest in preventing
teen drug drug abuse.
They are:
The White House Office
of National Drug Control
Policy (ONDCP), the
Substance Abuse and
Mental Health Services
Administration in HHS,
the National Institute
on Alcohol Abuse and
Alcoholism at NIH, the
Office of Safe and Drug
Free Schools in the U.S.
Department of Education,
the National Highway
Traffic Safety
Administration in the
U.S. Department of
Transportation, The Drug
Enforcement
Administration (DEA) and
the Bureau of Justice
Assistance in the U.S.
Department of Justice,
and the National Guard,
part of the U.S.
Department of Defense.
Each of these agencies
will post National Drug
Facts Week information
on their Web sites, and
many will hold special
events linking
scientists to teens.
“Knowledge is the
most powerful tool we
can provide our teens
with to help them make
good, healthy
responsible
decisions,” said
ONDCP Director R. Gil
Kerlikowske. “By
empowering teens to
think critically about
drug use and its
consequences, we can
improve the health and
safety of a
generation.”
The Department of
Education will encourage
schools and educators
all over America to hold
events.
The Drug Enforcement
Administration will post
special scientific
information on its teen
site, Just Think Twice.
The week will also
include the launch of
the first annual
National Drug IQ
Challenge, a 20-question
multiple choice quiz
that teens and adults
can take to test their
science based knowledge
about drugs. The quiz
can be found on the
National Drug Facts Week
Web site. High scorers
will be rewarded with
five additional Brainiac
questions that focus on
the brain.
The quiz and other
information on National
Drug Facts Week can be
found at
http://drugfactsweek.drugabuse.gov/
The above photo
depicts
"Julio," one
of eight characters
Susie Vanderlip portrays
to make a powerful
impression on youth
about the damaging
impact of using drugs
and alcohol to cope with
life as well as the
severe emotional impact
of growing up in a
family where someone has
an alcohol or drug
problem. The program
includes research-based
content on adolescent
brain development as
well as the impact of
emotions on alcohol and
drug use in adolescence
and adulthood, as based
in research shared by
the American
Psychological
Association.
LEGACY OF HOPE® is an
effective tool for
educating youth and
adults on the damage
that alcohol and drug
use/abuse have on the
emotional, familial,
self-esteem and
relationships of make
informed, HEALTHY
CHOICES.
Contact us for 2010-2011
programming.
For
more about LEGACY OF
HOPE®
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Parent
- Teen Cell
Phone Use
Contract
No doubt, many
teens live and
die by their
cell phone!
It''s very clear
to parents,
teachers and
other adults
that teens can
easily lose
themselves,
their connection
to the people
around them, and
even their
ability to
verbally
communicate due
to obsessive
texting.
Remember, a teen
does not have a
fully developed
cortex, in fact,
their cortex is
barely developed
since in the
early years and
no more than 50%
formed by 18 as
it grows from 12
to the
mid-20''s. This
means that their
impulse control
-- that urge to
respond to EVERY
text, EVERY
tweet, EVERY
Facebook entry
is all but
irresistible to
many. Their
ability to
comprehend the
consequences of
too much
text/cell phone
chat time is
also unrealistic
as this, too, is
a cortical
process.
As a result,
responsible
parenting
requires
teaching and
training teens
to have impulse
control and to
foresee
consequences.
Before they can
do either all on
their own, they
learn from
boundaries
parents set and
consequences
from ignoring or
overstepping
those
boundaries.
Parental
boundaries are
not set as
punishments nor
as disrespect
for a teen, they
are about
responsible
parenting –
taking the time
to help you teen
become conscious
of impulse
control by
giving them a
boundary to make
it visible to
them. This is
where the
behavior STOPS;
beyond this it
is unacceptable.
They certainly
may not like it,
but they will
get it, and
eventually,
somewhere in
adulthood, may
actually
appreciate it!
Teachers know to
set boundaries
on cell phone
use in class.
They tell me
they employ a
variety of
techniques to
keep cell phones
out of the
classroom. Every
cell phone goes
into a basket at
the beginning of
class and can be
picked up on the
way out. If it
goes off in
class more than
one time, it
becomes the
property of the
school. If a
teen requests to
use the bathroom
during the class
period and is
found in the
hall texting or
making a call,
that cell phone
becomes the
property of the
school.
Of course, cell
phones are a
great help to
parents in
keeping track of
your teens,
however,
establishing
usage limits is
essential since
many teens will
just not be able
to control the
impulse to stay
connected to
friends, and be
in the center of
what’s
happening.
We found a very
reasonable
PARENT – TEEN
CELL PHONE USE
CONTRACT online
and urge you to
check it out.
Get
copy of Cell
Phone Contract
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Stress
is a fact of Life... or
is it?
69% of people
surveyed recognized the
benefits of mental
health support and
stress management, only
7% are seeking help to
cope in the past year.
Why?
* Maybe down deep we
believe that worry will
control future outcomes,
so if we deal with our
"worry,"
we''ll lose control of
the future. But worry is
really just FEAR - False
Expectations Appearing
Real!
* We also get an
unending stream of
messages to just
"escape" from
the stress into food,
drink, prescription
drugs, sex, gambling - a
whole variety of
supposed quick-fix
solutions for
individuals that make
considerable money for
corporations. Hmm...
* Or perhaps we''re just
supposed to "handle
it all" and that
getting help is a sign
of weakness , failure or
defeat.
It is said that the
definition of insanity
is doing the same thing
over and over and
expecting a different
result.
Try something different
- try PEACE and
SERENITY. You may just
like it.
Contact
us for more info, to
book a Workshop or
purchase the De-Stress
for Success® System
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