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Welcome to September 2010 'News of Hope'  
 

Welcome back to the school routine!

We hope to help everyone''s adjustment to the schedules, the peer influences, the academic pressures and more with on-going articles to keep parents, teachers, counselors and teens informed about making healthy choices!

As we roll into the new school year, we will continue to keep you informed of critical social and emotional teen concerns and prevention issues for your youth and families.

Contents for September, 2010

• Survey Reveals 5 Million Youth Attend Drug Infected Public Schools
• Sextortion: Blackmail among teens via Sexting and Cell Phones
• Launch National Drug Facts Week in your School District with LEGACY OF HOPE®
• Parent - Teen Cell Phone Use Contract


Pictured Above:
Barbara and Ray Alpert Long Beach Jewish Community Center where the free public LEGACY program was presented in August, sponsored by WomenShelter. Susie is pictured with Sandie Diamond, WomenShelter coordinator of the event. Many thanks to all who attended with special acknowledgement of the Clare Foundation which brought a number of girls in recovery to view the program and stimulate discussion.
Index to past Legacy Newsletters by topic.

 

Survey Reveals 5 Million Youth Attend Drug Infected Public Schools

From CADCA - Community Anti-Drug Coalitions of America

Columbia University''s National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse last week announced the results of its newest report National Survey of American Attitudes on Substance Abuse XV: Teens and Parents.

CASA''s back-to-school survey exposes an alarming jump in gang violence and drug use in public middle and high schools in America. Based on CASA’s survey results, 27 percent of public schools are infiltrated with gangs and drugs, which equates to 5.7 million of 12 to 17 year olds who go to school every day where drugs and gangs are present.

According to the study, schools where gangs are present are twice as likely to experience issues with illegal drug use.

The study also found that compared to students at drug-free schools, students from gang- and drug-infected schools are:
• three times more likely to drink alcohol, Aug 26, 2010
• five times more likely to use marijuana,
• five times more likely to have a friend who uses illicit drugs—including acid, cocaine, ecstasy, heroin, or methamphetamine
• 12 times more likely to smoke cigarettes



CADCA Article here

View the entire study from Columbia University

 

Sextortion: Blackmail among teens via Sexting and Cell Phones

According to Sue Scheff of the Broward County Parenting Teens Examiner in Florida, “Teens turn to sextortion - Blackmailing as a form or e-venge” – or just being mean.”

“As schools are opening and teachers, parents and administrators get ready for another school year,” says Scheff, “there is another form of bullying/cyberbullying developing. Sextortion. Teens blackmailing other teens for what they do online with less than flattering photos.”

Start the year off right by talking to your kids about the dangers of passing photos of any kind virtually. Digital pics from a phone can be manipulated and cropped into some very unflattering pictures. Help your teens understand the possible consequences.
No doubt, as Scheff says, "Communication is key to prevention."

Connect Safely.org recommends the following
Tips to prevent sexting that can lead to sextortion:


Don''t take or send nude or sexually suggestive photos of yourself or anyone else.
If you do, even if they''re of you or you pass along someone else's - you could be charged with producing or distributing child pornography. If you keep them on your phone or computer you could be charged with possession. If they go to someone in another state (and that happens really easily via cell phones and email), it''s a federal felony.

Then there''s the emotional (and reputation) damage that can come from having intimate photos of yourself go to a friend who can become an ex-friend and send it to everyone you know. Not only can they be sent around; they can be distributed and archived online for people to search pretty much forever, affecting getting in to college and future jobs.

Sexting can be done on any media-sharing device or technology - including email and the Web. Teens have been convicted for child porn distribution for emailing sexually explicit photos to each other.

Many causes.
In some cases, kids are responding to peer pressure in a form of cyberbullying or pressure from a boyfriend or girlfriend (they break up, and sometimes those photos get sent around out of revenge). Sometimes it''s impulsive behavior, flirting, or even blackmail.

We at Legacy remind parents that the prefrontal cortex responsible for impulse control is not fully developed in young people until 24 to 27 years old. Parents, impress upon your teens to stop, think and talk to YOU before ever sending a picture out of anger, jealousy, rage, or revenge.

The feelings may say DO IT, but you can help them calm down and see the dangerous consequences of acting upon those emotions. As ConnectSafely says, “It''s always a bad idea” to send sexually explicit or nude photos.


ConnectSafely encourages parents to talk with your kids about sexting in a relaxed setting.
Ask them what they know about it (they may not have heard the term, so "naked photo-sharing" works too). Express how you feel in a conversational, non-confrontational way. A two-way dialog can go a long way toward helping your kids understand how to minimize legal, social and reputation risks.

The bottom line: Stay alert when using digital media. People aren''t always who they seem to be, even in real life, and sometimes they change and do mean things. Critical thinking about what we upload as well as download is the best protection.

Check out ConnectSafely.org for more info.

As Sue Scheff says,
“Be an educated parent, you will have safer teens.”

Let LEGACY OF HOPE Assemblies awaken kids to How their brain works and healthy emotional coping skills

 

 


Launch National Drug Facts Week in your School District with LEGACY OF HOPE®

August 27, 2010
Announcement from Join Together:

From the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA) - a component of the National Institutes of Health in the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services

Expanding on the success of its online Drug Facts Chat Day, the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA) announced it is launching National Drug Facts Week, a new national awareness week designed to bring together teens and scientific experts to discuss the facts about drug abuse.

"What we learned through our annual Web chat is that teens have many questions about drug use and are eager for objective, factual answers," said NIDA Director Dr. Nora Volkow. "So we wanted to build a series of events where teens could ask scientists their questions directly."

The week starts on Monday, November 8 and encourages community-based question and answer events between teens and scientists. Events can be sponsored by a variety of organizations, including schools, community groups, sports clubs, book clubs, and local hospitals.

Include a LEGACY OF HOPE presentation to emotionally captivate and motivate the attention of both youth and adults, then deliver the scientific data to convince them intellectually. A powerful combination for making a lasting impact.

NIDA provides an online toolkit that advises teens and their sponsoring organizations on to how create an event, how to publicize it, how to find a scientific expert, and where to find scientific information on drugs. National Drug Facts Week is being supported by multiple federal agencies that share an interest in preventing teen drug drug abuse. They are:

The White House Office of National Drug Control Policy (ONDCP), the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration in HHS, the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism at NIH, the Office of Safe and Drug Free Schools in the U.S. Department of Education, the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration in the U.S. Department of Transportation, The Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA) and the Bureau of Justice Assistance in the U.S. Department of Justice, and the National Guard, part of the U.S. Department of Defense.

Each of these agencies will post National Drug Facts Week information on their Web sites, and many will hold special events linking scientists to teens.

“Knowledge is the most powerful tool we can provide our teens with to help them make good, healthy responsible decisions,” said ONDCP Director R. Gil Kerlikowske. “By empowering teens to think critically about drug use and its consequences, we can improve the health and safety of a generation.”

The Department of Education will encourage schools and educators all over America to hold events.

The Drug Enforcement Administration will post special scientific information on its teen site, Just Think Twice.

The week will also include the launch of the first annual National Drug IQ Challenge, a 20-question multiple choice quiz that teens and adults can take to test their science based knowledge about drugs. The quiz can be found on the National Drug Facts Week Web site. High scorers will be rewarded with five additional Brainiac questions that focus on the brain.

The quiz and other information on National Drug Facts Week can be found at
http://drugfactsweek.drugabuse.gov/


The above photo depicts "Julio," one of eight characters Susie Vanderlip portrays to make a powerful impression on youth about the damaging impact of using drugs and alcohol to cope with life as well as the severe emotional impact of growing up in a family where someone has an alcohol or drug problem. The program includes research-based content on adolescent brain development as well as the impact of emotions on alcohol and drug use in adolescence and adulthood, as based in research shared by the American Psychological Association.

LEGACY OF HOPE® is an effective tool for educating youth and adults on the damage that alcohol and drug use/abuse have on the emotional, familial, self-esteem and relationships of make informed, HEALTHY CHOICES.


Contact us for 2010-2011 programming.

For more about LEGACY OF HOPE®


  
  

                                         

Parent - Teen Cell Phone Use Contract
No doubt, many teens live and die by their cell phone! It''s very clear to parents, teachers and other adults that teens can easily lose themselves, their connection to the people around them, and even their ability to verbally communicate due to obsessive texting.

Remember, a teen does not have a fully developed cortex, in fact, their cortex is barely developed since in the early years and no more than 50% formed by 18 as it grows from 12 to the mid-20''s. This means that their impulse control -- that urge to respond to EVERY text, EVERY tweet, EVERY Facebook entry is all but irresistible to many. Their ability to comprehend the consequences of too much text/cell phone chat time is also unrealistic as this, too, is a cortical process.

As a result, responsible parenting requires teaching and training teens to have impulse control and to foresee consequences. Before they can do either all on their own, they learn from boundaries parents set and consequences from ignoring or overstepping those boundaries. Parental boundaries are not set as punishments nor as disrespect for a teen, they are about responsible parenting – taking the time to help you teen become conscious of impulse control by giving them a boundary to make it visible to them. This is where the behavior STOPS; beyond this it is unacceptable. They certainly may not like it, but they will get it, and eventually, somewhere in adulthood, may actually appreciate it!

Teachers know to set boundaries on cell phone use in class. They tell me they employ a variety of techniques to keep cell phones out of the classroom. Every cell phone goes into a basket at the beginning of class and can be picked up on the way out. If it goes off in class more than one time, it becomes the property of the school. If a teen requests to use the bathroom during the class period and is found in the hall texting or making a call, that cell phone becomes the property of the school.

Of course, cell phones are a great help to parents in keeping track of your teens, however, establishing usage limits is essential since many teens will just not be able to control the impulse to stay connected to friends, and be in the center of what’s happening.

We found a very reasonable PARENT – TEEN CELL PHONE USE CONTRACT online and urge you to check it out.


Get copy of Cell Phone Contract Here!


Stress is a fact of Life... or is it?

69% of people surveyed recognized the benefits of mental health support and stress management, only 7% are seeking help to cope in the past year.

Why?

* Maybe down deep we believe that worry will control future outcomes, so if we deal with our "worry," we''ll lose control of the future. But worry is really just FEAR - False Expectations Appearing Real!

* We also get an unending stream of messages to just "escape" from the stress into food, drink, prescription drugs, sex, gambling - a whole variety of supposed quick-fix solutions for individuals that make considerable money for corporations. Hmm...

* Or perhaps we''re just supposed to "handle it all" and that getting help is a sign of weakness , failure or defeat.

It is said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
Try something different - try PEACE and SERENITY. You may just like it.

Contact us for more info, to book a Workshop or purchase the De-Stress for Success® System



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